This space that we have for ourselves, is so often filled with other people’s joys, their postcards slapped into our face. Every day we’re presented with those countless narratives—people’s highlight reels and polished versions of reality—that invite us to compare and we have no idea what will come on the next scroll, it just keeps coming and never ends.

The adventure of choice is one of the greatest freedoms and also anxieties we have in a world saturated with information, opinions, and noise.

Choosing what and whom we follow is a subtle act of self-definition.

The scrolling is similar to the untrained mind. The voices we let in shape our thoughts, emotions, and even our sense of self. The adventure of choice can entail choosing what we take in, who we “follow”, and whose advice we take as dogma.

We always have the choice to withdraw. Which version of life are we withdrawing from—the real, social world around us or the digital one on our screens? Notice which one we are overinvesting in.

Participation in the endless feed of other people’s experiences is optional. Remember sometimes we can just tell our minds, “that is not my business.” I don’t have to follow that person no matter how “positive” they may be.

This phase of time we are in is labeled as the “Aquarian Age.” One of the tenants of the Aquarian Age is not putting others on a pedestal. No one else is more right than our own life. No one else has all the answers that we “should” inflexibly follow for the formula for happiness. We each have our own compass and nothing is guaranteed, promised, or owed to us. The influencers don’t have it all figured out, the motivational speakers haven't cracked the code, because life fluctuates and the moment we get comfortable another desire or circumstance usually comes itching around.