The changes ahead may not be perfect, but they are mine; there may be no single right choice, only the next step I’m willing to take and learn from...We often realize what we “should” do only after the moment passes. It can feel too late, and we start asking: What is the right thing? Is there a better choice? How will I know?

Remember when we used to take tests in school and there would a question that we had to answer by filling in the blank? Instead of rushing to fill every doubt with an answer, we can create a kind of blank space—a pause where we let ourselves not know for a while. In that space, we ask, listen, and allow time to work on us. This is the in‑between, the place between confusion and clarity.

No matter what we choose, it’s natural to wonder, What if ______? If we had kids we wonder what it would be like without them. If we didn’t have kids we wonder if we should have. The goal is not to erase that question, but to make peace with life reconfiguring just like when the Google map reroutes and finds us another way, it may be longer but there is a change of scenery at least. When we settle into the space within our own lives—breathing, noticing what truly matters to us—answers tend to arrive more softly. We recognize the right next step not by perfect certainty, but by a quiet feeling: I can live with this choice, and it’s honest to who I am.